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The Countdown Is On For This Pocket Wife-To-Be

23 Sep 2011The countdown begins.... Since my wedding is on a Friday, it is exactly 7 weeks today, until I get married. That's 48 days and approximately 1,174 hours. Therefore, it is now 7 weeks until I become a ‘pocket wife' (I should clarify, Todd (my fiancé) and I have jokingly said that I will be his pocket wife, because I am so small already, that by the time I'm 80 years old, after a considerable amount of shrinkage due to old age, I will be small enough, that he will be able to put me in his pocket and carry me around).

So, I thought I'd give you all an update on my upcoming wedding plans, since I haven't blogged about it for a while now, and keep getting requests about when my next one will be.

Everything is pretty much on track, except the bridesmaid dresses, they have finally come in (after a 4 month wait!!!), only for us to find out they are either too small, or wayyyyy too big in some areas. Not good. But we'll all be taking a visit to my dressmaker over the weekend to see what the damage will be, to get the dresses to look the way they are meant to.

Whilst visiting the dress maker, I will hopefully also get a glimpse at how my wheelchair train is going; I am having a train made up to go on the back of my chair, to make it look pretty when I'm wheeling away. It is going to be partly made out of my mum's veil, which she got as a gift from her mother for her wedding 30 years ago, so it will be very sentimental.

Because my legs are so small, garters don't really come in my size, so instead of just buying one and altering it, I thought to myself, I'm pretty handy on the sewing machine, so I'll give it a go of making my own, why not?! Well, I already made one (the throw away one – which has blue in it; for ‘something borrowed, something blue ect'), but didn't get enough ribbon, so it looks a bit dodgy, and being the perfectionist that I am, I don't want it to look like I made it, so back to the sewing machine I go, when I find time that is!

For those of you who aren't familiar with my whole wedding preparations so far, I will get you up to speed... Todd and I are getting married down the south coast of NSW, in a beautiful town called Wollongong. Our ceremony will be at a park, which overlooks the beach where Todd's mum's ashes were scattered almost 10 years ago.

Anyway, I recently took one of my bridesmaids down to Wollongong, to see the exact spot where our ceremony will be. I was a bit apprehensive about how it will all go on the day, because it is on grass, and for those who are close to me, will know that grass is one of my worst enemies (lots of bad memories from falls ect). I generally choose not to wheel myself, or let anyone push me on grass, unless it's ABSOLUTELY necessary. But, for this occasion, it's pretty necessary, so I thought that we should go and have a practice run, to see what part of the park would be the easiest for me to wheel up to the ceremony spot from.

The grass is on kind of a slope up, then back down, to get to the spot that Todd and I have chosen for our ceremony. Because I have such an intense fear of grass, I was contemplating hiring some false flooring to lay down, so that I could wheel over it, but it was just really difficult finding what we needed and we're trying to keep costs down as much as possible, so I just went with a white carpet.

Anyway, my bridesmaid and I had a test ‘walk' down the aisle towards where Todd will be standing on the day, and it really wasn't as steep as I remembered, so it will all be fine! And once my white carpet is laid down, that should smooth me over any dips or rocks on the ground. And as much as I despise being pushed by anyone, my dad will be there to push me along, and I'm sure he wouldn't let my chair tip me out.

Hopefully this weekend, I can get some more wedding related errands accomplished, because time is ticking! OMG, now there's only 1,173 hours to go!!! Stay tuned, and if there is enough interesting wedding preparation content available, I will keep you all updated right up until the big day...

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Kate from Brisbane Australia posted on 22 Oct 2011
Just wanted to say what a beautiful couple you make. I wish you all the happiness in the world.My sister will be getting married on the 5th of November. She is not considered disabled, but was born with Turners disease and is quite tiny. She never thought she would see this day, as so many other things have been kept from her due to her Turners, as I am sure you would understand.I think that it is wonderful that you both have found such lovely, caring men to spend the rest of your lives with. Congratulations and all the best for the big day! Kate

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